Mental Alignment

Mental Alignment is when your values match up to your actions. Whenever you act in a way which does not match what you value, you put yourself out of alignment. A person out of alignment, never feels good and life just doesn’t go right.

How this works is those things we value, our ethical standards, serves as a foundation for our moral compass. When our actions violate these standards, our body has a reaction which is disempowering. This can start off small, with minor things that “don’t seem really bad” such as doing something a friend asks you to do. I had a friend who asked me not to talk about an issue which involved other people. I was hesitant, and I understood why she was asking. The reasons given seemed logical and well meaning. I agreed not to say anything. However, this was a violation of my ethical standard I have set for myself. This grew into other violations – all of which I agreed to – and served to put me further out of alignment with myself. I began to withdraw from people. I started avoiding life and those I had a responsibility towards. Finally, my life had become so dis-empowered, I knew I must do something. I did. I took responsibility for my inaction, confessed to those to whom I had failed in my duty to them and offered a corrective course. Immediately, I began to feel freer than I had in a long time. While I was afraid of the reaction of those I had not been truthful with, I had put myself back in alignment. I had taken back my power.

Keeping yourself aligned to your moral compass is critical for all to be free. When we live in conflict with our moral compass, those standards we develop for ourselves to guide us, life just doesn’t go well. This can leave us feeling un-energized, sad, out of sorts, lethargic or just the opposite, moving too fast, angry, or out of control. Out of alignment always equals life not going well. The things which put us out of alignment may seem insignificant, at least at first, but it will grow with time and in intensity.

To put yourself back into alignment takes work, sometimes very difficult work. You may need to apologize, confess or make amends for whatever action or inaction you took which was against your own moral standards.

If your life is not going the way you want it to go, perhaps it is time to sit down, do some work to look to see if and where you are out of alignment with your values. This may take some work for most of us don’t tend to think of their ethical standards. If you haven’t thought of it, this may be the first step. Then looking to see where you became out of alignment with those standards. Once you know what this is, then it is time to do the work to put yourself back into alignment. This is a lot of work, but it is some of the best work you will ever do. The incredible freedom you feel when your aligned is extraordinary. I am glad I am back to being me!!