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Like on TV

Janet Paleo • September 30, 2023
       I enjoy watching TV shows that depict home, family, and friendship dynamics. I have a fondness for mushy holiday movies and shows like "Friends," "Little House on the Prairie," and "The Waltons." Mysteries also captivate me, as characters embark on quests to uncover clues and solve crimes. Often, I find myself yearning to experience the kind of fun and adventures portrayed on TV.
      The characters on these shows are depicted as vibrant and outgoing, frequently meeting up with friends for coffee or tea, engaging in thrilling escapades. They dance, sing, and throw spontaneous parties with gusto. Dressing up in various costumes and organizing theme parties, like a recent episode where they learned a Swedish dance and savored Swedish cuisine, brings them boundless joy.
       Yet, I recognize that these shows are scripted and the actors excel at their roles. While I'm aware that this is a fictional world, I can't help but desire to be a part of it. However, as I contemplated further, I realized that none of the characters were ever portrayed as simply watching TV. At most, there might be a glimpse of someone playing a video game, with any TV-watching scenes usually segueing into romantic moments. The characters don't actually watch TV shows themselves, as that would be uninteresting and nonsensical. This realization underscored the contrast between my life and the scripted narratives on screen.
       Delving deeper into my thoughts, I pondered whether my life is genuinely uneventful or if it merely appears mundane when compared to the scripted drama I consume. While I might not spontaneously burst into dance or attend frequent parties, I do engage in singing and embark on exciting adventures. So, why am I longing for what I see on TV? This introspection led me to an insight: it's not the activities themselves that I'm missing, but rather the sense of familiarity, community, and human connection that the characters enjoy. TV shows excel in portraying these bonds between people.
       This is why I hold a special affinity for Prosumer meetings. These gatherings feel like family reunions to me. Given that I don't have a close relationship with my biological family, I've chosen to regard the people I meet at these gatherings as my chosen family. I cherish the uniqueness of each individual, appreciating them for who they are. Unfortunately, due to work commitments, I often have to miss these meetings, leaving me yearning for the connections I've established with my chosen family. These friends, with whom I share laughter and memorable moments, fill the void and make me feel truly alive.
        Prosumers often emphasize the idea of life extending beyond our own minds. When we're confined within our thoughts, we might exist but not truly live. Similarly, being inside a TV show might be entertaining, but it doesn't equate to a genuine experience of life. Much like how negative self-talk can plague our thoughts, TV shows can perpetuate an unrealistic image of life. The truth is that life flourishes in the presence of others. It's not always about novelty and excitement; it's about the potential for both. Life isn't always cozy and familiar, yet it can be. What's certain is that life is never devoid of meaning. If it feels dull, it's likely because we're either stuck in our own heads or immobilized in front of screens. Recognizing this, I am committed to making a change. I'm determined to forge stronger connections, to truly live my life. I will venture out, engage in activities, and seize the opportunity to be a participant rather than a spectator. Perhaps, someday, those scriptwriters might find inspiration in my journey to live life to its fullest!

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